Self-confidence

Its astonishing how different we human beings are. Some of us are so self-confident and others not so much.
May it be just talking to that cute girl you have been admiring for a while now, or facing that interview that is coming up next week. It might be approaching your boss with a kick-ass new idea that you have for your project, public speaking or just answering or asking questions at a seminar or congress.

In all these situations its important to have sself-confidence.

For some of us it comes effortless. As natural as breathing in and out. It might be pre-dispositioned in our DNA, i sometimes think. We can literally talk to anyone, anywhere. We just don´t have that thing that people call shame. 

But for some other people it doesn't come as natural.  It is mostly a struggle. And this can end up being really depressing, frustrating and at the long run they might end up missing on so much in life. When i put my self in their shoes, i actually get it. I understand where this might come from.

But the good thing is; self-confidence can be learnt and trained.


The first move on attaining self-confidence is to asking your self; what am i afraid of? Identify your fears.

Is it failure? Is it rejection? Is it criticism? Is it judgement?...What is it?

After identifying your fears, then ask yourself; what is the worst thing that could happen?

Will you be fired by your boss when you tell him about your new great idea? Will your partner leave you when you tell her about your plans on becoming self-employed ? Will you  fall ill when you talk to that guy? Will you maybe faint on stage while you make that public speech?

The good thing about asking ourselves these two questions is that we will find out that our fears are irrational.

And when we realize that most of our fears are irrational then the little voices in your head that keeps on saying that we can not do this or that, will get quieter. The negative voices that keep on telling you that you will not make it, will soften down and we will find ourselves trying out stuff that we would never have tried.

We will start with smaller things like saying hi to our crush. And when that goes smoothly then we will find ourselves even asking her out for a date.

All lack of self-confidence is brought about by irrational fear. In his song 'brave', Moriah Peters sings: fear kills more dreams than failure ever will. I can not agree more.

Let us remember the great opportunities that we missed out on, just because we were afraid.

Right before facing that fear of yours; try making the super-man pose. Hold it for at least 2 minutes. This has been proven to significantly increase self-confidence.

While you make conversation, talk loudly and clearly. Take an upright posture and don't look to the ground.

These are small little things that  help to improve self-confidence.

While you face those fears, just remember that trying once and failing is not the end of the world.

Learn from the failure and take the second and the third trial.



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