Rejection!

The oxford english dictionary defines rejection as "The dismissing or refusing of a proposal, idea, etc." or "The action of spurning a person's affections".

It is one of the most acrimonious feeling a person can ever experience. It is the reason a young intelligent lady will not apply for her dream job.  The reason a good looking handsome guy will not approach the woman of his dreams. The reason the shy boyfriend will not ask her girlfriend to marry him. 

Rejection can however also be observed in a social context. Whether its from family and friends or even in social media. When a clique rejects a fellow classmate beause she  is of a different skin color. When a father disowns his own daughter because she happened to be a rape victim. When your facebook friend-request remains unanswered.... The list is indefinate!

Rejection is the giant monster between us and our dreams. The invisible opaq wall separating us from the life we wish to lead.

And the problem is mostly not the rejection itself, but more the fear of it.  

When we have undergone rejection in life, we get over the pain but the memory of it resides in us. It will follow us for the rest of our lives and hinder us from making courageous and bold risks in the future. 

...And so I wonder what rejection does in our bodies in order to cause such immense effects which last a lifetime!?

A scientific study by students from Michigan medical school showed that people undergoing rejection show the same brain activity just like a person in physical pain. Dr. David T. Hsu adds that when dealing with rejection the brain produces opioids which are natural pain killers to help ease the pain. 

So yes, rejection is painful. But despite the pain and the memories of it, I hope it will not dictate our future. We will apply for that vacany anyway despite the fear of rejection, we will approach that beautiful lady or the handsome guy anyway despite the fear of being turned down, we will ask ourgirlfriend/boyfriend to marry us anyway despite the fear of discardment.

At the end of the day....only when we take the risk, will we find out whether the fear was valid or not. And we will not live with the regret of "what if i had....?". 

Rejections are part of our lives, but they shouldn't  dictate how our story reads.


Thanks so much for reading.


Till next time, stay blessed!

Itsrosebeth